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1What things about me remind you of anyone from your past, either past sweethearts or good friends?
2What do you think are my talents? Do you think you have any of the same talents?
3How many physical fights have you been in? Do you usually start them? Why do you fight?
4Has anyone very dear to you died? How did you handle it?
5What are you most fearful of? How does that fear keep you from doing things you would like to do?
6Are you chirpy in the morning or are you a grouch?
7Do you ever pick up hitchhikers? Which type of people would you pick up?
8How often do you think your gut feeling is correct? When can you remember that it was incorrect?
9What one skill do you wish you had learned but haven't yet (Play the piano? Learn a foreign language? Fly a plane? Etc.)?
10Does public speaking frighten you? Have you had much experience with it?
11What sort of reaction do you have when you get very upset?
12Is it ever appropriate for someone to express anger in a physical way? If so, when and how?
13How do typically handle the trauma from a big loss whether it is from the death of a loved one, getting fired or some other big disappointment?
14What is your typical reaction when someone criticizes you?
15About what things are you most selfish?
16Do you think that you are able to calmly and wisely react in emergencies? What are some examples of emergencies you have had?
17How did you feel when a beloved pet of yours died?
18Do you have a dream that repeats again and again? What is it?
19What feeling do you have the most difficulty controlling?
20What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
21How do you think I handle myself when I'm in a crisis situation?
22If you could choose to know everything about one topic, what area would you choose to be an expert?
23How would someone be able to tell if you're happy? If you're sad?
24Are you an organized person?
25If a fire destroyed your home and all of your belongings, what would you do? If you could take out three things before the blaze, what would they be? (Assuming there is no one in the house at the time of the fire.)
26If you were a very talented writer and were guaranteed to sell 100,000 copies of whatever book you wrote, what would it be about?
27Does any particular season make you happier than others? If so, do you know why?
28Do you like your first name? Have you ever wished you had a different name? What name would it be?
29When you are sick and feeling poorly, do you like to be alone or do you like to be pampered and have someone close to your side most of the time?
30What is the most thoughtful, caring thing you have ever done?
31Do you ever think that your partner gives more time, love and affection to a child or pet and it makes you jealous?
32Do you like to exaggerate things for effect?
33If you had to be a different nationality, what country would you like to have been born in? Why?
34If you were given $50,000 to throw a party for all of your friends, what sort of party would you put together?
35Are you a morning, a night person or somewhere in the middle?
36Do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one that was full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?
37Do you think you are a fairly typical man/woman in the way you think, act and believe?
38Are you one who adapts to change easily? Can you cite some examples?
39Do you have a child's heart sometimes? What sort of “childish” things do you think about doing?
40Are you generally an optimist, pessimist or a realist?
41How often do you cry? What situations often bring you to tears?
42What makes you feel secure and safe?
43Do you tend to analyze your decisions before you talk about them or do ideas and thoughts blurt out without much forethought?
44Would you describe yourself as a peace-keeper or a trouble-maker?
45What type of social gatherings do you prefer - small groups or large parties?
46Do you like to be the life of the party or do you prefer intimate, one on one conversation?
47Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert? Does it change depending on the crowd?
48Do you experience PMS? Is it mild or severe? How does your mood change and for how many days? How do you want to be treated during your period?
49What do you tend to be humble about? When do you catch yourself being arrogant?
50Do you tend to keep a lot of thoughts and feelings to yourself or do you share them pretty openly?
51Do you ever lose your temper? How does it manifest itself?
52Do you give money to homeless people/beggars? Why or why not?
53What experiences usually make you filled with joy?
54Do you currently believe that you are mature and experienced enough to be able to build and maintain a very successful marriage?
55When did you feel you were ready or when do you think you will be there?
56Which do you think should have the final say in decisions - logic or emotions? Why?
57In what circumstances do you feel most at peace?
58Men, what do you think is the best thing about being a guy? Women, what do you think is the best thing about being a female?
59Do you think of yourself as mechanically inclined?
60If you were given the opportunity to successfully run for president, would you do so? When you won, what three things would you most like to improve in your country?
61If someone gave you one million dollars that you were required to give to some person or organization, who would you give it to?
62Do you enjoy hugging people? Do you like receiving hugs?
63What five things have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
64Tell me about the most emotional cry that you can recall.
65Has there ever been a time when you felt like you were going to "lose it"?
66If your partner had an affair, how would you react? Could you forgive him or her?
67If your partner had a one-night fling after drinking too much, how would you react? Could you forgive him or her?
68Are you able to keep secrets? Is it hard for you?
69Have you ever given a speech? What was the last one about?
70Does anyone give you an inferiority complex?
71Do you think that luck has much to play in your life?
72Do you find it difficult to compromise on things?
73Do you have a fear of being alone? Rejected? Unloved?
74Is there anything that makes you feel homesick, nostalgic or sentimental?
75Do you have an idol? Do you try to model yourself after him or her in some way?
76Do you think of yourself more as a leader or a follower?
77Over the last five years how do you think you have changed for the worse? Better?
78Did you have a point in your life where you turned your life around?
79What one thing could you change in your behavior that would make your relationship closer? What is keeping you from making that change?
80Is there anything that you constantly worry about?
81If someone tells you a juicy tidbit about a friend or coworker, do you have difficulty keeping it to yourself? Do you ever tell people they shouldn't gossip?
82If you were paid a salary to work for any one charity for an entire year, which charity would you choose?
83Would you rather be mute, blind or deaf? Which of the three would be the worst?
84Is there anything that you have practically no self-control over (ice cream, offers for a roll in the hay, a bargain shoe sale, a beanie baby for your collection, etc.)?
85Do you think you are interesting or a bore?
86Are you more sensitive than most people of your gender?
87Do you usually ask for help or support or do you prefer to fail all on your own?
88If you had huge financial losses and had to liquidate all of your possessions including your car and home, what would that do to your self-esteem?
89What makes you feel important?
90How would you rate your maturity among your peers?
91What is your number one flaw? What steps are you taking to overcome it?
92Do you see yourself as worthy of love? Why or why not?
93What is your greatest disappointment?
94Have you ever worked really hard at something but it didn't pay off in the end?
95Do you have a "special place"? Why is it so meaningful to you?
96Why do you feel that you are trustworthy?
97Do you think you are competitive? In what areas?
98Am I a nagger? How so? Does it irritate you?
99Are there any rituals you do every day?
100How do you feel when someone close to you disagrees with you?
101In which areas of your life do you feel like you are an independent?
102In which areas are you dependent on others?
103Do you enjoy debating others?
104In what ways do you feel really blessed?
105What things tend to make you angry? How do you usually react when you are angry?
106On which topics do you feel qualified at giving advice?
107Would you make a serious attempt to lose weight if your partner asked you to?
108How do you think I could enjoy life more?
109What is a talent that you wish you possessed?
110Do you write important dates such as birthdays and anniversaries in your calendar? Do you use a calendar? Do you usually remember those dates?
111Have you ever played any musical instruments? Which ones and do you still play them?
112If you had to be famous, what would you want to be famous for? Do you think fame would be a good thing or a bad thing for your relationship?
113If you knew you would die in two days, how would you spend the time until then?
114How many hours does it take until you can't stand being alone anymore?
115What makes life worth living?
116What are you living for…..??
117Do you think I am a lot like the other members of my family? How am I like them?
118What are your thoughts on crying?
119Can you think of any trait of mine that reminds you of your father or mother?
120Are you a balanced person? If so, how did you get to be balanced? If not, what steps do you need to take to be more balanced?
121If you could make any three changes to our school systems, what would they be?
122If you could live one year of your life all over again without changing a thing, what year would you choose? Why?
123Do you prefer receiving expensive gifts or ones that come from the heart?
124Do you know most of your neighbors? Do you ever socialize with any of them?
125Have you ever lived alone? Do you or did you enjoy it?
126Someone once said "A women who does not feel loved needs jewelry, gold and dazzling gifts to be happy. A woman who truly feels loved finds those gifts to be superfluous (nice, but not necessary)". Do you agree?
127Prior to this year, what is the best gift you've ever received? Why was it so special?
128How do feel about your mate reading your private email?
129Are you camera shy? Why?
130Do you feel that you need to be occasionally held or emotionally supported by someone who is strong? Why or why not?
131Do you generally make to do lists? Would you like it or be offended if your mate helped you make a to do list?
132Do you feel like you waste a lot of time? Do you wish you didn't? Do you feel that your partner wastes a lot of time? Does that bother you?
133Do you tend to be punctual or are you usually late?
134What are some things that you consider a waste of time?
135What do you like most about my personality?
136
137Favorites
138Do you have a favorite type (or a couple) of music? A favorite singer? Or musical group?
139What is your favorite fast food restaurant? How often do you eat there? What's your favorite restaurant for casual dining? Favorite special occasion restaurant?
140Do you remember what your favorite childhood books were?
141Do you have a favorite movie? Actor? Actress? Comedy? Drama?
142What's your favorite alcoholic beverage?
143What meal would you eat most often if you could? Do you have a favorite "fancy" meal?
144What is your favorite snack food? Dessert? What's your favorite ice cream flavor?
145Do you have a favorite and least favorite day of the week? Why do you feel that way?
146What is your favorite time of day?
147What's your favorite candy bar?
148What is your favorite ethnic cuisine?
149
150Pets
151If you could have any pets you wanted and had the space and money to properly care for them, what pets would you want to have?
152Are you allergic to animals? If your fiancé was allergic to your pets, would you be willing to give them away to a good home?
153Are there any types of pets that you refuse to live with (snakes, rats, stray dogs, etc.)?
154Do you allow your pets to be on the furniture?
155Do you get your pets "fixed" or do you allow them to keep producing litters? What do you do with the babies?
156Are there any circumstances where you think it is a good idea to put animals "to sleep"?
157Do you think that it is cruel to keep a dog in a cage or tied up most of the time?
158How do you feel about dogs that are bred to attack and have been known to kill children (Pit Bulls, Rotweillers, etc.)?
159Do you feed your pets food off of your plate? How do you feel about that practice?
160Do you take your pets with you on short trips? Long vacations? Do you put them in a kennel or have a friend watch them?
161Do you have a preference for cats or dogs? Indoor pets vs. outdoor pets?
162If you get a pet for your children and they don't take care of it, who will be responsible for cleaning up after it, feeding it and walking it?
163How do you feel about getting dogs professionally groomed?
164If you and your mate purchased a pet and later split up, how do you think you would decide who got the pet?
165How do you feel about pets being in the bedroom or sleeping on your bed?
166
167Attractions
168If you didn't like your mate's clothing or hairstyle, would you tell him or her? Would you want your partner to tell you?
169What first attracted you to me? How has that one attraction changed since then?
170If you went bald, would you consider wearing a toupee or getting hair plugs?
171Would you want your spouse to talk with you first before they dramatically changed their hairstyle or facial hair?
172If your partner asked you to shave or not to shave (face, underarms, legs, pubic area) would you do it? What is your preference for shaving those areas?
173If you had problems with my personal hygiene, would you be able to tell me?
174What physical or personality trait do you think makes people first attracted to you?
175Do stylish clothes, nice hair, expensive jewelry or "things" make you feel better about yourself?
176Do you think you tend to attract a certain type of person?
177Do you feel like you need to dress sexy? Why or why not? Do you feel that people who dress sexy are sending the message that they are interested in sex?
178How do you feel about permanent tattoos? Why do you think most people get them?
179If you suddenly became blind, how would your idea of the perfect mate change?
180Do you believe in love at first sight? If so, what about the millions of cases when love at first site ended in disaster?
181Do you really like the way I dress? What changes could I make that would please you?
182Which do you think you would rather have: a gorgeous mate who wasn't very interested in sex or very good in bed or a very ordinary looking spouse that was awesome in the sack?
183If you could be any height and build you desire, what would it be?
184Should your sweetheart love you just the way you are, or would you be willing to make some changes (the way you dress, shaving, new hairstyle, etc) to become more attractive to him or her?
185In what ways are you smart?
186How would you feel if your mate wanted to wear matching outfits or dress like you?
187What do you find attractive about my physical features? Is there a favorite?
188If you were single and wanted to write a personal ad describing your qualities, how would it read?
189Do you fear looking older?
190How do you feel about women wearing makeup? What do you think is ideal?
191What is your opinion on women spending money to get their nails done? Do you have a preference on how you like women's nails?
192What do you perceive to be your physical flaws?
193Are you currently comfortable with your body? If not, what would you change to make you comfortable?
194How would you feel if I had breast implants?
195If you could change one thing about your body, what would it be?
196What outfit of mine is your favorite? Why is it?
197Do you think that dressing is something you do out of necessity or do you enjoy putting outfits together?
198If your aunt left you a large sum of money in her will for you to have any sort of plastic surgery you desired would you have anything done?
199Name one or two minor changes I could make to my appearance that would make me more attractive?
200
201Health, Food & Well Being
202Do you have any phobias, fears or concerns about going to the doctor?
203Do you have any concerns over vaccinations or flu shots for you or your children?
204What are your feelings about recreational drugs? Have you ever taken any and if so, how long did you use drugs? Do you still use them?
205Do you have any concerns about my health or unhealthy habits?
206Second hand smoke is one of the leading causes of cancer and breathing related illnesses. Will you allow anyone to smoke around your children? If you smoke now would you make a serious attempt
207to quit before having children?
208Have you ever suffered from depression (not just feeling blue, but a feeling of extreme sadness that leaves you nearly paralyzed)? If so, what brought these feelings on, how long did the depression last and what therapies worked for you?
209Have you ever had serious thoughts about committing suicide? What are your thoughts about those who kill themselves?
210Do you think tobacco should be banned since it is an addictive drug?
211If that happened what affect would it have on people's lives 20 years from now? Should marijuana be made legal? How would that change affect society 20 years from now?
212When, if ever, was the first time you smoked a cigarette? Why did you try it? How long did you smoke? If you still smoke, have you ever seriously tried to quit?
213Do you smoke (or chew tobacco)? How often? How long have you been doing so and have you ever tried to stop? What methods?
214Which meals would you like to be able to eat together? Do you think we will be able to consistently do so?
215Do you get irritated when you have to wait in long lines? Will you wait 45 minutes to be seated in a restaurant?
216Do you have any special dietary needs? How do you need me to support you with this need?
217Do you consider yourself in shape?
218Do you live to eat or eat to live?
219What do you think are your optimum hours of sleep to be fully energized?
220Do you ever diet? What sort of diets do you usually go on?
221How often do you get sick? Is it a cold, flu or usually something else?
222Are you a coupon collector? Do you sometimes get fanatical about saving money on groceries?
223How many drinks does it take until you are definitely "feeling it." Do you cut yourself off after a certain number of drinks? Or when do you know you have had enough?
224Have you ever had an emotional breakdown or been diagnosed with a mental illness? How long did the recovery take?
225What do you think about eating meals (with your family) in front of the television? Do you think family time and discussions around the dinner table are important?
226Do you have any rooms that are off limits for bringing in food?
227Do you find that you eat when you are bored, stressed, or worried?
228Are there emotional times that make you want to eat?
229Have you ever deliberately thrown up food or ate tiny amounts of food to lose weight?
230How much time per day/week do you currently exercise? How much time do you think you should spend? How do you think we could help each other with our exercise regimens?
231Do you have any particular health concerns (e.g. heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, etc.)?
232Do you get a regular medical checkup? When was your last one?
233Are you more likely to take over the counter medicines, prescription medicines, homeopathic medicines, natural remedies or nothing at all when you are sick?
234Do you cook or do you only eat prepackaged food? How often do you go out to eat?
235Will you eat everything on your plate no matter how much is there (assuming you like the food)? Or will you quit when you feel full enough? Do you need to feel "stuffed" to be satisfied?
236What form of exercise do you prefer?
237Do you currently suffer from a sleeping disorder? Have you ever?
238Do you enjoy eating leftovers? Do you refuse to eat leftovers?
239Do you always like to sample your partner's food in restaurants?
240Does it bother you if someone always wants to taste your food/drink?
241Have you ever done any stupid or dangerous things when you were drunk? Like what?
242Do you regularly take vitamins? Do you think the foods you eat have enough naturally occurring vitamins in them?
243Could you ever be married to someone whose breath and clothes always reeked of tobacco?
244Do you try to eat healthy meals? Organic?
245Are you currently on any medication? What for?
246On average, how many alcoholic beverages do you have in a week? Is that all at once, on the weekend or spread about through the week?
247
248Do you like to plan your week's menu in advance or cook whatever you are in the mood for (or have ingredients for)?
249Do you enjoy cooking for company or do you feel inadequate?
250Do you usually just buy what you need at the store, whatever is on sale, or whatever looks good?
251Are you highly critical of the food and service when you dine out?
252Can you go out and enjoy a meal or do you always have to "rate" it?
253Are you fearful of germs or food poisoning and tend to toss everything out of the refrigerator that is more than a week old?
254Were you taught proper table manners growing up? Do you feel that your table manners need improving? Would you like for your mate to point out where you could improve? Do your partner's table manners embarrass you when you eat in public?
255Do drink coffee? If so, how many times a week and how many cups each day? Do you feel that you need a caffeine "fix" to get going for the day?
256Do you ever drink and drive? Would you agree not to if your partner had a big problem with you doing so?
257Do you have any allergies?
258Have you been abused in any way - sexually, emotionally, or physically? Do you still have emotional scars from it? Have you ever counseled about it?
259Are you a gourmet - enjoying trying all sorts of international cuisine or do you prefer to eat the same basic food all the time?
260Do you remember your first alcoholic drink? What were the circumstances?
261Who do you think should be responsible for grocery shopping and cooking in a marriage? When you are married how many times a week do you think you would eat out?
262What foods do you really dislike? Are there any foods you don't eat for health or other reasons?
263Have you ever been hospitalized? What for? What was the experience like?
264
265Vacations
266Do you enjoy experiencing different ways of life or do you usually find it frustrating that they don't do things as efficiently or like the way things are done back home?
267Have you ever traveled out of the country? Do you have a passport? When does it expire?
268Do you usually do some business while you are on vacation (answering email, checking voicemail, returning phone calls, etc.)?
269How much time each day? Is that pretty much necessary?
270Would you rather take a one-week $5000 vacation or would you rather go on three different one-week vacations that cost $1700 each? What is the maximum length vacation you think you could take away
271from work without causing a problem? If you were retired or between jobs how long could you be away?
272If you could plan any vacation for us, where would it be?
273When you travel, what is your usual goal (relax, sight see, see friends/family, do culture things, eat at new restaurants, etc.)?
274Do you go back to the same places again and again or do you desire to go to new places most of the time when you travel?
275Do you like to travel on the spur of the moment (hey, let's drive to the mountains next weekend)?
276How many times during the year do you travel? How many times for business and how many pleasure vacations?
277How much does your typical one week vacation cost (not including air fare)? Do you think you take budget vacations, moderate or expensive trips?
278Do you fly as cheaply as possible or do you splurge for business or first class when going on vacation?
279Do you tend to get sea sick or motion sick? What cures have you tried?
280What was the best vacation you've ever taken?
281Have you ever been on a group tour? What do you think about them?
282Do you like to take vacations that are activity oriented (cycling trips, skiing trips, scuba trips, etc.)?
283Do you enjoy camping?
284What eating/sleeping arrangements are tolerable?
285Who looks after your home when you are away on vacation?
286How do you handle the language barrier when you travel to foreign countries? Are you willing to visit places where your language might not be spoken?
287Do you think you would enjoy going on a vacation with your sweetheart's family?
288Would you detest it or do you not know them well enough to decide?
289What are your thoughts on separate vacations? If we had limited income and different travel priorities, do you think we should take vacations without each other every once in a while?
290When you go on a vacation with someone, do you like doing everything together, most things together or most things on your own and then getting back together for meals?
291If you and your mate each have an income and maintain separate accounts, how do you split the costs of a vacation?
292What sort of research, if any, do you do before you travel somewhere?
293How do you feel about going on weekend getaways?
294If you enjoy traveling, what places do you like to go to most often?
295Are there any places you have no desire to go to?
296Do you arrive at the airport ahead of time in case problems arise or do you try to get there at the last possible minute so you don’t have to wait?
297Do you save up for a vacation or do you put it all on credit and pay it off as you can?
298How many weeks each year can you take off from work?
299
300Morals, Convictions and Beliefs
301Have you ever committed a felony? Have you ever been arrested?
302Are you listed as an organ donor on your driver's license for when you die? Would you like for your organs to be donated?
303Do you have a position on the government killing men and women who have knowingly committed murder?
304What do you think about pornography? Do you think it is ever helpful?
305How do you feel about men and women killing people from other countries? Have you already been in a war? How did it affect you to have to kill (or support those who killed) others?
306Are you an activist for any causes?
307Do you think you could kill a person if they were threatening the life of your loved ones?
308Would you be able to marry someone who formerly was in a gay relationship or had a few homosexual experiences prior to dating you?
309Is there anyone you would be willing to die for?
310Do you vote regularly? Do you vote straight Republican, Democrat or other party? Or do you analyze each candidate and vote for who you think is most qualified regardless of party affiliation?
311Are you currently involved in any criminal activities right now?
312Would you steal a car for $200,000 if you would be certain that you would not be caught? What about for $1,000,000?
313How would you feel if one of your friends said he or she was gay?
314Would you still want to socialize with him or her?
315Are you often embarrassed about how most of your race behaves?
316Do you think your race is superior to all others/most?
317How do you feel about gambling? If your company sent you on a business trip to Las Vegas, what limit would you place on yourself for gambling each day?
318To what extent are you involved in politics?
319How do you feel about having guns in your home?
320Do you have guidelines regarding movies you will not see?
321Do you use foul language? Why do you do it? Does it bother you when you hear others cuss?
322Is there anything you would physically fight for?
323If you found a wallet with $300 cash in it, would you return it to its owner? Would you turn it into the police if there was no identification in it?
324Do you feel strongly against people wearing fur coats?
325Are you liberal, conservative or somewhere in the middle?
326Do you think your parents are/were racist? How did that affect the
327way you think about people of other races?
328From your past relationships, do you think that most people learn from their mistakes or do they simply keep repeating them?
329Do you believe that most people are trustworthy and honest?
330Tell me about the biggest lie you've ever told? Why did you tell it and how did you feel afterwards?
331What do you do to protect the environment? Do you think you should do more?
332Do you think you could go skinny dipping with your mate in private?
333How about with a group of people you knew?
334Have you ever been to or would you ever go to a nude beach? What is your opinion on nudism (people who enjoy being nude around others - not in a sexual way)?
335Besides traffic violations, have you ever knowingly broken a law?
336What did you do? Do you believe that there are some laws that aren't necessary to be kept?
337Do you support (with money and/or time) any charities or causes?
338If your dear friends wanted you to donate sperm or eggs because they were infertile, would you do so? How would you feel about your mate doing so? What about donating them for a couple that would remain anonymous?
339Do you believe there is one right person for you out there in the world or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
340What sort of emotions (rage, anger, sorrow, etc.) do you think are inappropriate for people to express publicly?
341What are your thoughts on handguns that serve no other real purpose than shooting people?
342Have you ever stolen anything? Why? Were you caught?
343
344Religion & Spiritual Matters
345Do you think astrological birth signs represents ones character? Why?
346Do you believe in God? What were you raised to believe about religion?
347If you are a Christian, what does the word "submission" in Ephesians 5:21,22 mean?
348How do you feel that a husband can “submit” in marriage?
349Do you believe all religions are worshipping God the way He wants us to?
350What has been your most negative experience with your religion or other religions?
351What has been your most positive experience with your religion or other religions?
352If you are turned off on religion is it because of bad experiences you have had with humans or is it because you are unhappy with God?
353Do you have any customs or rituals regarding celebrating births and remembering deaths in your family?
354About how many times a month/year do you attend church services?
355How important is religion when deciding to seriously date someone?
356What religious differences would cause you serious doubts about a long-term relationship?
357Do you believe that if you give money to churches or charity that you will be financially rewarded? Rewarded in other ways?
358Do you believe in ghosts, angels or extraterrestrial beings? Why?
359If you have religious convictions regarding sex before marriage, what boundaries should you set up so you live up to those convictions?
360If you say you are a religious person, do you really practice it? Have you studied your religion's doctrines? In which ways are you not actively following your faith?
361Have you seriously studied other faiths besides your own? If you are a Christian do you know what other denominations believe and teach?
362What doctrines are essential for a church to teach in order for you to be able to become a member?
363Do you attend the church you were brought up in? Would you consider attending a different church/denomination if your spouse desired?
364Is it more important that you attend a church where you are comfortable or is it more important that you worship with your husband/children? What do you think of couples who each attend their own Christian church?
365Could you marry someone who does not share your fundamental religious beliefs?
366When we die, what do you think happens to us? What do you base your opinion on?
367What do you think it means to receive Christ as your Savior and Lord or "have you been saved"?
368Have you ever personally received Christ as your Savior and Lord?
369Yes/No/Unsure If yes, Where? When?
370What would you like to happen to your body (buried, cremated, donated to science, etc.) when you die? Do you have this stipulation in writing anywhere?
371What are your father's and mother's religious backgrounds?
372If we practice different religions, what problems might that cause with our wedding, the way we celebrate holidays, and how we will raise our children?
373Do you believe that mankind is created with free-will (the ability to make right or wrong decisions) or that everything in life is predestined (planned out for you)?
374Is there any way we could use religion to help fill our marriage with love and peace?
375Do you want a church wedding. If so, why?
376Do you believe that the Bible is the inspired Word of God? Why?
377Do you have any religious, ethical or cultural reasons why you think people of different races should not marry?
378How often do you pray? Why do you pray?
379Do you have any superstitions? What are they?
380The Bible emphatically states that eternal life only comes through belief in Jesus Christ and his sacrifice. If you are a Christian, how do you feel about living with someone who does not have the same hope of eternal life? What if they worshipped some other god than Jesus Christ?
381If you and your mate had significantly different religious beliefs, what would you teach your children about God? Would you want your mate to teach your children things that contradict your beliefs?
382Do you believe most people who convert to their mate’s religion do so out of keeping peace in the family or because they sincerely understand and believe the tenets of their mate's faith? Does it matter?
383Would you be willing to go through a workshop or class that discussed the basic beliefs and doctrines of your partner’s church?
384How does your faith help you cope with problems and trials?
385Are there evil spirits in the world? Do you fear them?
386What place do you believe religion will have in our lives?
387Is religion important in your daily life? Why or why not?
388How to do feel about those who are in different religions? Do you believe that God has a plan to save the whole world from eternal death (those who want to be saved) or only those who hear and believe the "truth" in this lifetime?
389Were you afraid of God as a child?
390To what extend do you think God expects us to follow and obey religious leaders?
391Does your religion have a policy on contraception? What is it?
392If you don't go to church at all or very often, do you think that might change when you have children? Why wait until then?
393Can you think of anything that might make you want to stop attending church?
394Do you think God created rules and instructions (a religion) to help men keep close to him? Or do you think man just made up those rules?
395Do you have spiritual yearnings? What questions to life are you trying to figure out?
396How many hours a week do you typically devote to your religious practices (e.g. going to church, prayer meetings, bible study, etc.)?
397Do you believe in reincarnation?
398Do you believe that the Satan of the Bible actually exists? If so, what is he doing? Why is he evil?
399Which religions do you think are the most harmful and destructive?
400Some people say they are "spiritual" but not "religious". What does that mean to you?
401If you pray, what do you give thanks for and what do you ask for?
402Do you fear God? Why or why not?
403Do you believe that God does anything that does not make sense?
404Can you always apply human logic to analyze religion?
405If we currently attend the same church but years from now I lost interest and stopped attending, how do you think that might affect our marriage?
406Why do you think the Bible states that Christians should meet regularly with other believers and worship Him?
407Does your partner have any religious beliefs that you feel are plain wrong (not going to doctors, no birth control, animal sacrifices, not wearing make-up, etc.) and you will not go along with?
408
409Car & Driver
410Do you prefer to be the passenger or the driver? Are you a back seat driver?
411What is your primary mode of transportation? Do you wish you had a different option?
412Do you ride motorcycles? Do you wear a helmet when bicycling or motorcycling? Is it the law where you live?
413Do you wear your seat belt when you are in a vehicle? If not, would you wear one if your mate asked you to because they love you?
414Have you ever received a D.W.I./D.U.I.? How many and how long ago?
415Do you currently hitchhike from time to time? Have you ever?
416Do you let your friends drive your vehicle if they need one to run an errand? Would you let you mate drive it on a regular basis?
417What do you feel is important in a vehicle for you (seats 5, reliable, good gas mileage, built like a tank, looks good, fast, etc.)?
418Do you keep your car clean or do you allow it to pile up with trash first?
419If you and your spouse had two cars, one much nicer than the other, who do you think should drive the newer vehicle? Would it make any difference if only one of you worked?
420Do you enjoy going on long road trips as the driver? As the passenger?
421Do you find that driving with your partner is pleasant or stressful?
422Do you personally wash and wax your car? How often?
423If your partner asked you to slow down or to drive more carefully, would you?
424
425Past & Future
426What were you teased about when you were younger? How did that make you feel? Did you tease others?
427Have you ever performed on stage in a band, a play or other performance? How did it make you feel?
428Did you ever hang out with the wrong crowd in school? Did your parents know about it?
429Were you a good teenager or did you give your parents a lot of grief?
430Were you always getting in trouble for a particular thing when you were a child?
431Did you ever run away from home? If so, why?
432What school sports and activities did you participate in up through college?
433What goals do you have for your marriage?
434Is there anything you feel you must accomplish before you die?
435What steps do you need to take to achieve these goals?
436What are three goals you have for this year?
437What are your top ten goals for your lifetime?
438In what ways does our relationship help and/or hinder the achievement of your goals?
439
440Holidays & Celebrations
441What is your favorite holiday? Why is it so special to you?
442Do you think we should spend certain holidays with certain families or would you like to spend holidays alone (and with any kids we might have) for a change?
443If you have children from another relationship, how do you negotiate with whom they spend the holidays?
444What are your thoughts about couples renewing their vows?
445Has anyone ever thrown an extra special birthday party for you?
446What made it so memorable?
447How much do you feel we should spend on Christmas? Who should we buy gifts for: friends, all relatives, co-workers, mailman, etc? Or do we want to try to celebrate it spiritually without all the commercialism? If so, how do we celebrate it?
448Do your religious beliefs prohibit the celebration of certain holidays?
449If you are a Christian, how can you put the focus of the Christmas season on Jesus Christ?
450Who should be responsible for sending holiday cards and thank you notes from the family?
451How do you think a married couple should celebrate their wedding anniversary? Does it always have to be the same way?
452Who should plan wedding anniversaries? Would you like to rotate?
453Should we have a yearly budget?
454How important is it that you spend the holidays with your spouse and young children?
455How much do you spend on wedding gifts? Birthday presents? Christmas gifts?
456Do you think partners should spend the same amount on each other for Christmas? What amount? What if one partner earns far more than the other and you keep separate accounts?
457Which family members should we buy birthday or special holidays gifts for (parents, siblings, aunts/uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc.)?
458How do you usually spend the "big" holidays? Do you do so mainly out of tradition or because you really enjoy celebrating it that way?
459Do you decorate elaborately for holidays? Would you like to put up more decorations if you had the time/money?
460Do you like to throw holiday parties or dinners? What do you usually do?
461If you didn't receive any gifts for Christmas (or the major holiday you celebrate) how would you feel?
462Do you usually have to work on any of the major holidays?
463How did you celebrate birthdays as a child? How do you like to celebrate yours now?
464Do you get emotional (irritated, sad, joyous, etc.) before or after any holidays? Which ones and why?
465Home & Home Life
466Where do you think you would be most comfortable living? City or country? Near the beach or closer to the mountains? Hot, warm or cold climate?
467What is the bare minimum you expect in a home?
468Are there duties or chores that you don't think you would do in a marriage? (take out the trash, mow the lawn, clean bathrooms, iron, etc)
469Which type of home do you think would have the most benefit for our lifestyle? Apartment (no maintenance but not much privacy and not a long term investment)? House (regular yard work and maintenance but the most privacy)? Townhouse/condo (no yard or exterior maintenance but certain restrictions and not as much privacy)?
470Do you keep things that have no real use and will probably never been used again (old newspapers, magazines, broken appliances, etc.)? Would you be willing to throw out or let your mate help you go through your "junk" if the clutter began to affect your relationship?
471How long do you usually take to get ready in the morning?
472How do you feel about your mate redecorating without consulting you?
473How soon would you like to move out of our first (or current) home?
474Next year? Five years? After the kids move out? Never?
475Do you allow anyone to smoke in your house?
476Do you like to have chores scheduled or just do them when they need it (or you feel like it)?
477If you had to pick a different city to live in with your sweetheart and proximity to family and friends didn't matter, which city would it be?
478Have you ever hired a cleaning service? Do you think they are a waste of money or money well spent?
479What do you envision our home (our realistic home - not our dream home) looking like? The architecture, the décor, the yard, etc?
480Do you usually listen to music around the house? What kind? How loud?
481Do you screen phone calls before answering the phone? Can you let the phone ring during meals or when company is over or do you feel compelled to always answer it?
482Do you have pests (mice, roaches, spiders, etc.) at your house?
483Would you use an exterminator if your mate asked you to?
484What do you like/dislike about the town(s) where you grew up?
485What do you do with your junk mail?
486Do you clean up the kitchen after every meal? Each night? Or when you run out of dishes or company is coming over?
487How clean do you keep your house?
488Do you usually put things back where they belong soon after you use them?
489What temperature do you like it in the house during the winter? Summer?
490Would it bother you if I walked around the house naked?
491How often do you feel the sheets should be changed?
492Do you snore? Can someone hear you snoring from another room?
493What are your sleeping habits (do you steal the covers, sprawl all over the bed, etc.)?
494Are you able to fall asleep with the lights on? TV on?
495How do you feel about your partner using your toothbrush?
496If you could build a vacation home anywhere in the world, where would you build it?
497Describe your getting ready for work/getting ready for bed ritual.
498How often do you think a bathroom needs to be cleaned? Have you ever cleaned a toilet?
499How many times a day/week do you take a shower or bath? Do you bathe in the morning or night?
500How many times a day do you brush your teeth?
501After you have used a towel, where do you put it? How often do you feel that towels should be replaced with fresh ones? Would you want to share your mate's towel or have your own?
502When taking off your clothes, do you immediately put them in the hamper if dirty, hang them up or fold them if clean or leave them on the floor?
503Does it bother you if you mate leaves their hair in the sink?
504Have you ever hired a gardener? Do you think they are a waste of money or money well spent?
505Do you put toxic poisons on your yard (weed killer, etc.)? How do you feel about using those chemicals?
506If you and your mate decide to get a hot tub or a pool in the future, who would be responsible for cleaning it?
507How many hours a week do you usually spend taking care of your yard?
508Can you live in a place that has junk in the yard (broken down vehicles, old appliances, ratty furniture, etc.)? Does your yard currently have junk in it? What are your plans for the junk? Would you do everyone a favor and haul it to the dump this week?
509Do you enjoy doing yard work? Do you expect your mate to help you with the yard work? Or for them to do it without you?
510Do you use your yard for any activities?
511Do you prefer a low maintenance yard or a style that demands a bit of work? What style do you like (lots of lawn, lots of flowers, tropical, desert, large vegetable garden, etc.)
512Do you have a desire for a lot of land with your home? How much?
513Do you wear anything in your hair or on your face when you go to sleep? How about a retainer or orthodontic equipment?
514Do you expect that both you and your mate would go to bed that the same time each night? How would you feel if your mate wanted to stay up several hours after you went to bed? What time do you usually go to bed on a work night? Non-work night?
515What chore do you most detest?
516Do you make your bed every day? Does it bother you if it is left unmade?
517Do you like a breeze blowing on you while you are asleep?
518How important to you is a house that is clean and without clutter?
519Would you be willing to clean the house to your liking if your spouse doesn't clean it to your satisfaction?
520Do you feel that the pluses outweigh the minuses regarding having a television in the bedroom? What are the positives and negatives?
521
522Hobbies & Entertainment
523Do you think there are any books or movies I should read or see? Why these?
524If you had to take a paid sabbatical and couldn't work for an entire year, what would you most like to do?
525How often do you go clothes shopping?
526Do you have problems letting someone else control the remote control? Are you a channel surfer?
527What sort of parties do you enjoy going to? Do you like to go for a short while or stay until most people have gone?
528Do you enjoy going to amusement parks? Do you like going on the thrill rides?
529Do you regularly go to musicals, operas or plays? If not, why?
530Do you prefer to spend most weekends lazing around the house, getting out of the house or being productive?
531Do you think you read too much or too little?
532Do you collect anything? What and how long have you collected? To what lengths do you go to add to your collection? How much do you spend each year on your collections?
533What is your favorite type of art? Do you feel you are artistic in any way?
534How many books do you usually read in a year? What type of books do you read?
535Do you have a favorite bar or place of entertainment? How often do you go there?
536Do you have a location in the movie theater where you prefer to sit?
537Do you think your family should have a limit on the hours of television watched each day? Would you be willing to start this week?
538What role does art play in your life?
539What are your favorite hobbies? Would you like to spend more time on them?
540What shows on television do you always watch?
541How many movies do you usually watch in a month?
542How personally involved do you get with "your" team's performance?
543If they lose, does it make you angry or put you in a bad mood?
544How many hours a day on average do you spend on the computer/Internet (not counting time spent for work)?
545Do you collect anything? How long have you been collecting? Why do you collect?
546Which newspapers/newsmagazines do your read? How often? How often do you watch the news?
547Do you go into Internet chat rooms? Are they general chat rooms or devoted to a certain topic?
548What sports do you watch on television? College, Pro or both?
549How often do you go to concerts? What kinds? Would you go more often if you had more time/money?
550If you had a day to yourself with nothing that had to be done, how would you pamper yourself?
551Do you enjoy shopping, don't care one way or the other, or detest shopping? Does it change whether it is for clothes, electronics or food?
552If your mate had great interest in some sport or activity that you had absolutely no liking or interest in, would you try to like it or would you simply encourage him or her to do it without you? If your mate didn't
553like your hobby would you cut back significantly so you could enjoy more things together?
554What are your three favorite board/card games?
555On weekends how late do you like to stay out? On work nights?
556Do you like any activities that are daring or risky?
557How many hours of TV do you watch in an average day? When do you turn the television on and when do you turn it off?
558If someone wanted to give you a $50 gift certificate to use on yourself, which store/theatre/spa would you tell him or her you wanted.
559
560Love, Romance & Date Nights
561What crazy thing have you done in the name of "love"?
562What things have I done that make you question whether or not I love you?
563What rituals could be added to our relationship on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis that would help us to remain close?
564Do you think you are a romantic person? Could you convince a jury?
565Would you like it if your partner massaged you without expecting any sexual outcome? If you don't give your mate massages, why not?
566What sort of physical affection do you think is appropriate in public?
567Does it matter whether or not the couple is married?
568What one thing could we do to improve our dates together? (check out Michael Webb’s book, 300 Creative Dates at www.300creativedates.com)
569How do you tend to express love for your sweetheart? (Things you do, Things you say, Gifts you buy, etc.?)
570Do you think your partner is "romantic"? If not, how could he or she improve? (You might want to suggest Michael Webb's book, The Romantic's Guide: Hundreds of Creative Tips for a Lifetime of Love - bookstores everywhere or www.TheRomantic.com).
571What are some things that your partner has done for you that really made you feel loved?
572What's the most romantic thing that's ever been done for you?
573What's the most romantic thing you've ever done?
574There are many types of love. Can you name some and tell how they are different?
575Have you ever written a love letter? Do you save old love letters?
576People like to be shown love in different ways.
577What are some of the ways you like to be shown that someone loves you?
578From previous relationships, what was the best date you had? What was the best date we have been on?
579In what ways do you like to be romanced?
580What is your definition of "romance"?
581Is it difficult for you to say "I love you"?
582Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
583
584Friends & Family
585How do you feel about the way your parents raised you? How did they do a good job and how did they mess up?
586What do you think is the common link among all (or at least most) of your friends? (School, Work, Personality, Hobbies, etc.)
587Do you have problems letting friendships dissolve when you realize you have little in common? Do you feel obligated to keep close
588family ties with relatives you would not normally choose to socialize with? Is it ever appropriate to "divorce" yourself from certain family members?
589Do you like it when friends feel comfortable enough to drop by unexpectedly?
590Who is your least favorite relative? Do you try to avoid him or her?
591Do you have a favorite relative? What makes them so special?
592Is your family important to you? Why?
593Do you think you could live more than six hours away from your parents and/or siblings?
594On a typical day/night out with your friends, what do you do?
595Did you grow up in an ethnic or culturally unique community? What role does it play in your life? Will you want to stay active in that community when you get married?
596In what ways do you think your parents could select a better mate for you than you could?
597If your family hated the person you were dating and voiced strong opinion against you marrying him or her, would you get married anyway?
598How have you changed since high school? What would your high school pals think about you now?
599What does my family do that annoys you?
600What family traditions did you have growing up? Would you want your children to continue them?
601What is the most important thing you learned from your father? What are some other things he taught you?
602What makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
603Do you enjoy hosting out of town guests in your home? If so, how long?
604How powerful is peer pressure to you? Do you feel you need to live in a similar fashion as your friends? Did you have problems with peer pressure in your earlier years?
605Which family member are you closest to? Has it always been that way?
606Have you given any thought to how you will take care of your mom and dad when they are older and need assistance?
607What is your relationship with your siblings?
608What makes the difference between a good husband and a great husband? Good wife and a great wife?
609What did you most enjoy doing with your family when you were a kid?
610How do you feel about friends, relatives or people in need living in your house for a year?
611What's the biggest fight you've had with your family? Has the issue been completely settled?
612How often do you see your family? Do you think that's enough or too much?
613How have your family been poor role models for relationships?
614Did you ever hear or see your parents fighting when you were a child? How did it make you feel?
615What is the most important thing you learned from your mother?
616What are some other things she taught you?
617Did one of your parents love you more than the other?
618Do you think it is risky or unhealthy for your mate to have a best friend's of the opposite sex?
619Do any of your friends have things that make you envious?
620Which of your friends is most successful? Would you like to have the same level of success?
621What positive things have you learned from observing your parents' marriage?
622Do you think you are a good influence on your friends or do you think they need you to be a good influence on them? How are they a bad influence?
623How long do you think you could stay with my parents before you became unhappy or resentful?
624When you are in a serious relationship do you tend to ignore your friends? Have you ever had friends get married and suddenly lose contact with their single friends? Is that to be expected?
625Have you ever had to deal with conflict in you family? How did you do it?
626Have your grandparents taught you anything really important or profound?
627What is your parents' nationality? Were you raised in that culture or do you know much about it?
628Do you like your last name? If you don't like it, would you consider changing it?
629If we have children, how often would you like the children to see their grandparents? Do you have any particular concern about the children spending too much time with any of their grandparents or relatives (that are racist, alcoholics, foul-mouthed, ill-tempered, etc.)?
630Can you say "no" to your parents when they want you to do something you would prefer not to?
631When you get married, do you think there would be any changes in your social circle? Which friendships do you think you would let go and which ones would you add?
632If you were married, how would you like to meet new people to socialize with?
633Are you currently satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends you have? Why or why not?
634Early in the dating stage, how strongly do you consider your friends and family's opinion as to whether you should continue seeing someone?
635When was the last time you called your Mom, just to tell her you love her? Your Dad?
636How often do you call your parents/family members?
637Who is your best friend? What about this person makes them so special?
638Ideally, what characteristics would your friends have?
639What have your friends taught you?
640Are you jealous of any of the members of your family? Why?
641
642Communication
643What does my body language tell you sometimes even though I'm not talking?
644Are there any parts of a couple's private life that should not be discussed with family or friends?
645Do you think your partner can listen to you and do something else (like watch TV or read the paper) at the same time? Can you?
646Do you think your partner talks too much on the phone and neglects you or other important things?
647Are there things that are easier to discuss with your friends than your partner?
648Do you think I can usually read your body language? Where am I good at it and what do I usually get wrong?
649On a typical month, how much is your long distance phone bill?
650Does that include international calls?
651If I get offended or irritated at something you say or do, what is the best way for me to bring it up so that you don't get angry?
652Do you think someone should ever correct his or her mate in public?
653How often do you feel that you really don't know your partner? Will time fill in the gaps or do you feel that your partner won't open up and you may never really know him or her?
654Can you have good conversations with someone you were just introduced to?
655When you really don't feel like talking to me, why is that?
656Do you prefer to stay in touch with others by letter, email, or the phone?
657When you ask your mate a question, does he or she always respond? How do you feel if you don't get a response?
658If you are in a grouchy mood, should I leave you alone or do something else?
659If there are some things from my past that are just too painful or uncomfortable to share is that ok with you? Would you be able to commit to someone who can't share everything?
660Does your mate usually interrupt your sentences? Do you find it irritating? Does your mate monopolize the conversation, making it hard to speak?
661Did your family tend to share feelings and emotions when you were growing up?
662If you have something that you really need to do, but you keep forgetting about it, how should I remind you without being a nag?
663Do you feel that your partner often takes ten minutes to tell you something when it could have been said in 30 seconds? Does that frustrate you?
664Do you enjoy talking about yourself - your job, your vacations, your accomplishments, etc.?
665Do you usually return phone calls and emails within a day?
666Are you good at taking phone messages or passing along important calendar dates to your partner?
667Do you sense that others may think that you talk too much about yourself?
668How much do you think a spouse should inform his or her mate regarding their schedule and whereabouts?
669Do you find it easy to start conversations with strangers?
670What areas do you think we could most improve our communication? (you might want to use the book chapter headings as a guide)
671What one topic do you wish I would be able to talk about more openly and freely?
672
673Career and Education
674Do you think you could ever give up your current life and move half way around the world for someone you love or for a perfect job?
675What are your career goals 1, 5 and 20 years from now?
676On average, how many hours do you work in a given week?
677If your employer saw everything you did at work, what grade would he or she give you? A B C D or F?
678Overall, how satisfied are you with your boss? Do you always seem to have "bad" bosses?
679Do you work better alone or with a team? Why?
680At what age or what level of financial stability (loans paid off, x dollars in savings) would you like to retire? How do you think you would spend your retirement?
681What decisions have you made regarding how you plan to balance work and play?
682Do you think you are a harder worker than most people at your job?
683Are you happy with doing an average job?
684How often do you call in sick when you are not really ill?
685Have you ever dated someone who worked in your company? Did the company have a policy against that?
686Is your business/line of work seasonal? What do you do during the slow periods?
687What changes do you think I would need to make to better enjoy my career?
688Do you "take your job home with you"?
689Do you get a lot of satisfaction from your job - do you feel you are somehow making a difference?
690Do you think you would ever have interest in running for a political office?
691Would it be okay for your partner to call you at work? Visit you?
692If you and your mate have significantly different levels of education, do you feel that it is hard to have a conversation on a level that is interesting and stimulating to you?
693If someone wanted to finance the startup of your business with no strings attached, what business would you start?
694In your present career, how much do you think you will be making in 5 years? 10 years?
695If you would earn only 70% of your current wages, would you take a job that gave you 100% professional fulfillment?
696Are you content with your current job? If not, why?
697What was the best job you ever had? Why was it?
698Would it ever be OK or desirable that you or your spouse didn't work?
699If you could create the perfect job and get paid well for it, what would it be?
700Have you ever gone to your boss and asked for a raise? Did you threaten to quit if you didn't get it? Did you get it?
701How important is it to you that your mate is intelligent? More or less important than looks?
702Have you ever felt that a promotion has been given to someone else when you were much more deserving? How did you handle it?
703Do you have a role model in your profession? What about them do you admire?
704What to date has been your greatest source of learning?
705Do you have a real desire to (or feel that you really need to) get more education? What do you want to study? When do you want to start?
706Did you go to college? Where? What degree(s) did you get, if any?
707Do you think your education has paid off? How?
708Is your current job position where you thought you'd be five years ago?
709How much time do you currently spend working? What hours do you work? Will that change when you are married and have a family to come home to?
710Do you feel like most people respect your line of work? Do you think you get the respect you deserve?
711How did you choose your major in college?
712How important do you think college degrees are in getting a good job? Does the college experience help you to be a successful person in more ways than just the book knowledge?
713When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
714How do you feel about mixing business with family? Business with friends? Do you have any experiences with either scenario?
715
716Money
717If your great uncle left you $100,000 in his will with the stipulation that you had to invest it for 15 years before you could touch it, what would you do with the money? Be as specific as possible.
718Have you ever saved for a major expense or purchase or have you always put it on credit?
719How often do you balance your checkbook?
720Do you get stressed out when finances are really tight?
721If I thought we needed help keeping our finances under control and suggested a “debt counselor” would you go with me?
722What is the minimum amount you think you could spend on a wedding and be happy with it?
723If you were single and quite wealthy, how would you weed out the "gold diggers"?
724Would you ever spend $100 on a bottle of wine? $300? Under what circumstances?
725Have you ever sued someone or been sued? What were the circumstances?
726How much debt do you think a couple should shoulder themselves with the first year or two of marriage given that financial problems early in a marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce?
727Do you think you could function without a credit card? Have you ever tried?
728What do you put on your credit cards?
729Did you complete your taxes from this previous year? Who did them? Do you always file on time?
730What sort of plans have you made for retirement?
731Do you have money invested in the stock market? Do you check your stocks every day? How often do you make trades?
732Do you think our family has the right to know your financial affairs (whether you are rich or deep in debt)? What would you tell them if they asked how much money you and your spouse make or how much money you have in the bank?
733Do you have the self-control to only spend each month what you can pay off? Or do you always carry balances on your credit cards?
734Do you think we should keep our money in joint or individual accounts? Why?
735How do we decide how to spend our money? Do we have free reign to spend whatever we want as long as it is "my money" or is there an amount ($100, $500, $5,000) at which we need to discuss before making a purchase?
736Do you think it is wise to lend significant amounts of money to boyfriends/girlfriends? Could it cloud the relationship?
737Do you think you have ever been "used" for money?
738Do you often feel that your partner doesn't respect your hard earned income by the way they spend it?
739Which of us has the best skills at paying the bills and keeping track of our expenses? Which of us has the best skills for investing our money?
740Do you tend to buy luxury items or are you frugal with your money?
741Look in your wallet. How many credit cards do you have? Do you need that many?
742Would you rather live modestly and retire modestly at 50 or would you rather live more extravagantly and retire modestly at 65?
743Have you ever gotten a second job to help pay for your nonessential purchases?
744Do you currently have a will? If not, why?
745If you got into financial difficulties, what would you try to do to get out of it?
746If you were married and inherited $200,000, how would you decide what to do with the money? Would your spouse have any input?
747What would you want to do if your spouse inherited the money?
748Do you think your partner mismanages their money?
749How much do you owe on all your credit cards? All other loans?
750Do our incomes cover our expenses? Separately, and if pooled together? How much do each of us spend each month/year on the following categories: housing, clothing, food, entertainment, debt payment, and miscellaneous expenses. Should we cut back spending in any categories to achieve our goals?
751If you married someone who had a lot of debt and bills, how would you feel about helping your mate pay them off?
752Have you ever filed for bankruptcy?
753If you and your mate's income doubled, how would you like your lifestyle to change?
754If your parents were to give you $30,000 to spend on a wedding, would you be willing to spend only $5,000 on the wedding and put $25,000 down on a house if that was acceptable to your parents?
755Have you ever made a loan to someone of a large sum of money?
756Would you do it again?
757How much per month do you think we should plan on spending on our home and its upkeep? If we begin to make significantly more money, would you like to move into a bigger/fancier home?
758At what point would you consider yourself "rich"?
759Have you ever dated someone just because they had (or you thought they had) money?
760Do both you and your mate know where all the important papers are and how to pay the bills should something happen to one partner?
761How many months of expenses do you think we should have in savings to feel secure? If we don't already have that much, how should we build up our savings?
762Do you have health insurance? If we were to get married, would it be better to combine the insurance under one employer?
763What problems do you see with the "my money, your money" approach to finances in a marriage?
764What is your dream car? Where would you have to be financially to justify the expense?
765How much do you think a person should give to a church or charity? (maybe put in terms of percentage of income)
766Do you think life insurance is a wise "investment"?
767Given that nearly 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce do you think prenuptial agreements indicate lack of trust or is it acting wisely to protect what you have worked so hard for? What do you think would be fair terms in the agreement?
768When men and women are dating, who do you think should pay for the date? Whoever arranged the date? Whoever makes the most money? Always dutch? Some other arrangement?
769What sort of tipper are you? Always 15%? Or more or less depending on the service?
770After you are married, how much do you expect to spend on clothes each month?
771How much money do you have invested or saved (stocks, annuities, retirement funds)?
772Do you think you are good or bad at handling money? How could I help you improve or how could you help me improve?
773Do you think you are ever obsessed with money? Is making/spending money one of the most important things to you?
774Do you think about money every day?
775
776Relationships - Past & Present
777What are some things you have learned from me?
778Do you think it is a good idea and shows maturity to be able to casually date more than one person at a time? At what point do you feel it is necessary to date only one person exclusively?
779Do you think you have dated/have seriously known enough people to know for certain when a great match comes along?
780How many minutes of undivided attention per day do you give your lover? Is that usually enough?
781Why would you like to be married some day?
782Is there anything that you feel like telling your mom or dad but you haven't? Do you think it would cause more damage to you if you said it? If not, why haven't you told him?
783How many people have you dated that you said "I Love You" to?
784What do you think is the secret behind couples that have been happily married for over 30 years? (check out Michael's book, 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships - www.50secrets.com)
785Have you ever said anything to me that you wish you could take back?
786Do you have any fears of deeply loving someone?
787In order for you to trust someone, what do you need to see in him or her?
788How do you feel about your boyfriend/girlfriend showing up at your house without warning?
789What do/did you most enjoy about being single?
790What do/did you dislike the most about being single?
791If you are dating someone, at what stage do you think it is wise to bring up the idea of marriage? If you bring up the subject before both of you are really ready to take it to the next level, what potential problems could that cause?
792What exactly do marriage vows mean to you? What are legitimate grounds for divorce, if any?
793Have you ever been in a relationship where you believe one person was 100% to blame for some of its problems?
794If I were really bothered about you sharing our fights/disagreements with your friends and family would you agree not to do it? Or would you agree to discuss it with them only if we couldn’t solve the problem on our own within a couple of days?
795What if anything would you put before your spouse?
796How long is it wise to wait to tell someone you love him or her?
797Should you try to build a good friendship first?
798Could you live the rest of your life with me exactly the way I am now? Or would I need to change some things for you to be able to commit a lifetime to me?
799How are you and your partner exactly the same?
800Do you think our relationship would improve if we didn't watch television?
801Who would you prefer to never speak to again? What made them so undesirable?
802As a general rule, do you always kiss on a first date? What signal do you think kissing is giving?
803How would you like your partner to introduce you to others? (boyfriend/girlfriend, partner, sweetheart, etc.?)
804Do you think you and your partner spend enough quality time together?
805How would you feel if I began to spend more time working on my hobbies and talents if it took time away from our relationship?
806How can I help you with your struggles?
807How do you feel about your mate greeting friends (or strangers) with a kiss?
808How do you think you can help me to become a better person?
809Is there anyone from your past that you still have strong feelings for?
810Are they still alive?
811Do you still maintain friendships with former boyfriends/girlfriends? If your mate were uncomfortable about any of those friendships, would you end them?
812Have you ever lived with someone you were dating? In what ways did it lead to your break up?
813If you were single, how do you think your life would be different?
814Have you ever been engaged? What happened?
815How important is it that a couple is friends first before they get into a love relationship? Do you think it is easy to build a friendship after a couple has already been lovers?
816What is the worst thing that a former boyfriend/girlfriend has ever done to you?
817What mistakes have you seen in other couples that you want to make sure doesn't happen in your marriage?
818Do you keep pictures of your past lovers? Would it bother you if your spouse had photos of past lovers? What about old
819boyfriends/girlfriends they were not intimate with?
820Have you ever been stalked by anyone? What did you do?
821What do you find most frustrating about men in general? What about women?
822Have you ever hit someone in a previous relationship?
823Would it bother you if I maintained a friendly relationship with my ex, especially for sake of the kids? At what point would you become concerned?
824In a past relationship, did you ever play games? How so?
825If you were married when you died, would you want your mate to feel completely free to marry again? How long do you think he or she should wait before dating again?
826How do you usually feel when you are with me for an entire day?
827What makes you think you will be a great husband or wife?
828Do we have any unresolved disagreements between us?
829How much of your current single life do you want to maintain after you are married?
830How long do you think most people can "be on their best behavior" and hide their real selves during a courtship?
831If your spouse was having serious doubts about themselves or the marriage and wanted to be separated for six months to think things over, would you agree and personally live as though you still married or would that signal to you that you are free to date again?
832In your successful relationships, are the people a lot like you or are they more like opposites?
833Have you ever been in a relationship that you wish you never had?
834What do you need from a partner to feel completely fulfilled? Has that changed over the years?
835Do the needs of your relationship eclipse your personal needs very often? When and how do you deal with it?
836Has anyone ever done something to you that you have never forgiven? What was it? Why haven't you been able to forgive?
837In what way are you and your partner "opposites"?
838Have you tended to date people older or younger than you? Why?
839Have your parents given you any warnings about dating? Do you trust their advice?
840What rules or standards do you set for dating? (i.e. No holding hands until you are in love, No kissing until we are talking marriage, No sex until marriage, No dating outside my religion, etc.) Have you ever broken your rules?
841How is the opposite sex an enigma to you?
842Have you ever had a bad breakup? Why was it bad?
843If I went to a dance or nightclub without you, how would you feel?
844What is your definition of "cheating" on your mate?
845How would you feel about your spouse opening your personal mail? Bills?
846Have you ever been in a committed relationship where your partner slept with someone else? Did it end the relationship?
847Do you think it is healthy for couples to fight (hurting each other emotionally or physically)? What steps could we take to express our disagreements maturely so we can have a "fight-free" relationship?
848Have you ever been in a committed relationship and you slept with someone else? Did you feel guilty?
849Is there anything in your past that you need to disclose that might have serious consequences on our relationship in the future? Is there any "dirt" reporters might dig up if you were running for President?
850If a teenager asked for your advice on the best way to find a mate that they could spend a lifetime of happiness with, what would you say?
851What details does your mate take care of that you know little or nothing about?
852What, if anything, do you feel you need to sacrifice or compromise in our relationship to make it happy?
853What bothered you most about your previous boyfriends/girlfriends?
854Do you consider it cheating if your partner is sharing sexual thoughts and fantasies online with others? What if they are engaged in cybersex?
855How do you know when you're in love and not simply infatuated?
856What did your previous partners complain most about you?
857If the woman in the relationship earns more money than the man how does that make you feel?
858Can you recall what made you fall in love with your sweetheart?
859What are the things that cause the most arguments in your relationships?
860Has anyone every pressured you to get married?
861Have you ever considered marrying someone because you were fearful that no one else would come along and you would rather be married than single and lonely?
862If a couple has been very unhappy for five years and has tried counseling with no success, do you think they should get a divorce even though no cheating or abuse has taken place?
863Why do you think adultery takes place among married couples?
864What do you think you can do to help prevent it in your marriage?
865Have I ever done anything or do I do things now that cause you to mistrust me?
866Do you enjoy flirting with others? Why? What signals do you think flirting gives to most people? If someone were flirting with you the way your mate flirts with others, what would you think were their intentions?
867Over 75% of couples that live together before getting married end up divorcing. Do you think you would be one of the exceptions or do think that living together before marriage probably hurts a relationship more than it helps?
868Have you ever gotten revenge on someone? What did they do?
869What did you do in return?
870How would you feel if your spouse raised their voice (shouted) at you?
871What do you think is the best way for couples to handle disagreements?
872From your previous experiences, when you had a fight or argument with your partner, did you first run to family or friends for advice or comfort or did first try to work things out with your partner?
873If I asked you to cut back the time you spend with people or activities and spend more time with me would you do it?
874Do you think that if a person offends your mate they have offended you as well?
875Have I ever behaved in such a way around someone that made you feel uncomfortable?
876How long was your longest relationship? Do you regret staying in it that long?
877What do you think is the best relationship advice you've ever received? Did the person giving it have a great marriage?
878What do you think about people who want to wait until they are married to have sex?
879Do you usually date people who have similar physical characteristics? What are they?
880What's the largest number of people you've dated at one time? Did it cause any problems?
881Do you wish your partner were more or less jealous of you?
882What in your opinion are the three best things about your lover?
883Do you feel that your lover is too needy at times?
884In all the couples you have witnessed over the years, which one seems to be most blissful? What about their relationship would you like to be able to have?
885If your spouse wanted to quit work to go back to school, write novels, or do something else that wasn't making any money, how long would you support him or her?
886Have you ever thought you were in love and realized that you were only infatuated or you were quite deceived? How long did it take for you to realize it wasn't real love?
887How could I make your life easier or more comfortable?
888What is your opinion on how I manage problems in our relationship?
889If you partner started breaking things or hitting walls because he or she lost their temper, what would you do? What if your partner hit or verbally abused you?
890If someone decided that they really don't see a happy long-term relationship with you, how would you want them to end it?
891If your job took you away from your mate and children for two months each year what would you do with your time? Do you think your marriage would be strengthened or weakened if this happened regularly?
892What is keeping me from relaxing and enjoying our relationship to the fullest?
893Do you have a feeling that your partner would like to change any of your qualities or behaviors? Which ones?
894In most circumstances how long do you think most couples should date (having good communication at least on a weekly basis) in order to really know each other well enough to get engaged? How long should an engagement period be?
895(you might want to check out Michael's book, The Romantic's Guide to Popping the Question at www.howtoproposemarriage.com).
896If you were single, what rules would you have about seeing people who were already involved with someone or who had just broken up? What about co-workers or other people you deal with on a daily basis? What experiences have led you to these rules?
897How long could you spend with your partner until you needed a little
898break and some time alone?
899What are your thoughts about telling jokes at your partner's expense?
900Currently, how much personal privacy do you desire? Would it bother you if your mate was in the bathroom while you were using the toilet or the shower?
901Do you find boyfriends/girlfriends easy to trust or do they have to earn your trust?
902In your current relationship do you feel that it is often more work than fun? Do you think that is a sign something might be wrong or do you think that is how all relationships are?
903
904Children & Child Rearing
905At this stage in your life do you think you would prefer having children or being child-free? Do you think your feeling might change?
906What are your thoughts on adopting children if you were unable to have children of our own? Would you adopt even if you could have children? Would you prefer surrogate motherhood or fatherhood to adoption?
907If you had a son, would you want him to be circumcised? Why?
908Have you read any literature on the pros/cons of circumcision?
909After the birth of your child, how much time would you want to take off from work? Do you have strong feelings about the mom staying home with the children until a certain age?
910If you wanted to become a one-income household after the birth of your child, what lifestyle changes would need to take place?
911Do you have a preference of the sort of food you would like your children to eat? (vegetarian, organic, no sugar, etc?) Would you be willing to change your eating habits to match what you think your children should be eating?
912Do you have any strong preferences on naming your children?
913Do you think you could learn some important things from a parenting class? Would you be willing to go?
914Should we try to move to an area that has a really good school system for our children?
915Would you want your children to be home schooled? Why or why not?
916Have you given any thought to how you would want to discipline your children during early childhood, adolescent years and the teen years? Be specific.
917Do you think that constantly buying your children new toys teaches them to become easily bored with things?
918What rules do you have that would result in eviction of your teenagers? How many warnings would you give them?
919Do you regularly give financial support to your adult children? Why?
920How would you feel if your spouse kept bailing your children out of trouble by giving them food, money or letting them live at home?
921What sort of limitations do you think you would want to place on your children regarding, television, music, magazines, Internet, etc.?
922What are the top five qualities that you hope your children will have?
923Do you think a room full of toys benefits or hinders children's physical and mental development?
924If you had children, what role would you want the stepparent to play?
925If you were a stepparent, what role would you like to play?
926How strong do you think a couple's marriage should be and how financially stable should they be before they try to have children?
927If a woman doesn't feel maternal enough to want to stay home and raise her children, is it better that she make the choice not to have children?
928At what age would you tell your children about sex if they started asking questions? If they weren’t asking questions? What would you tell them? Or do you prefer they learn about sex somewhere else?
929Do you think it is important that your children be breast-fed for both health reasons and for bonding? If so, how long do you think your babies should be breast-fed (most babies are breast-fed anywhere from 6 months - 3 years)?
930Do you think people who decide not to have children because they don't have a strong desire are selfish or wise?
931Who do you think should go to parent/teacher conferences?
932What do you think about drinking in front of children? What about getting drunk?
933How much should a husband participate in the care of a baby? (i.e. feeding, changing diapers, late-night responsibilities, etc)? Does it depend who is the more gifted caregiver?
934How do you feel about your children participating in sports where the
935aim is to hurt one another or there is extreme physical contact such as boxing, football or rugby?
936Which, if any, household chores would you expect your children to do? Beginning at what age?
937Have you read any books on parenting? Do you think it is a good idea to read these books by "experts" or just go by instinct or the advice of family and friends?
938How should decisions be made in the family? Does the husband have the final say or do you do things democratically?
939How were you shown affection as a child? Do you think you will show your children affection the same way or differently? What do you think is the best way?
940Do you think that parents should love and care more for their children than their mates? Do you think it is natural for parents to want to love their offspring more than the person they married?
941If you just found out that you and your mate were expecting a child, how would it make you feel? How do you think your relationship would change as a result?
942Ideally, what are the minimum number of years you think you would need to build a solid relationship/marriage before you add children to the mix?
943Do you think that it is important that the father is present at the birth of his child if at all possible?
944How would you feel if you only had boys or girls? Do you strongly want a particular gender?
945At what age do you think you would want to let your children group date? Single date? Will you let them go "steady" when they are teenagers?
946Would you mind if your children are sexually active at the same age that you were? If you felt you had sex too early what do you think would have helped you to wait?
947When you were a child, did you get an allowance? How much was it? Did you have to do chores to earn it? Would you want the same system for your children?
948If your partner had a different last name than yours, whose last name should be given to the child?
949If your child was born with a birth defect that required around the clock attention would you take care of the child yourself or let it live in a professional home for children with such disabilities?
950What do you think makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
951Do you believe you need to be married and have children to be "whole"?
952If you knew with 100% certainty that having children would decrease your marital satisfaction by 30%, would you still want children?
953Do you think you want any (more) children? How soon?
954Do you think parents should foot the bill for their children's college expenses or do you think children actually appreciate and learn more when they have to pay all or a significant part themselves?
955How many children do you think you would like to have?
956Do you plan on rearing your children close to how you were reared, very differently or a mixture?
957What would you want to teach your children about fist fighting?
958How much time each day do you think you should spend with your children?
959How would you want to decide on what gifts to purchase for your children?
960In what areas do you think parents should sacrifice for their children and which areas should they not?
961If you and your spouse worked, who would take care of any children you had?
962Do you think parents have the right to return (to the store) or give away gifts given to their young children that they feel are inappropriate or junk?
963What are reasons a couple should have children? What are reasons they should not?
964At what age do you think you would be too old to have children to really enjoy them?
965What are your child-support/custody arrangements with your ex?
966Do you believe in tough love - letting children suffer consequences from their repeated mistakes?
967Have you ever abused or molested a child (or been accused of it)? If so, what steps should we take to make sure it doesn't happen again?
968If you and your spouse have disagreements about child rearing, what methods do you use?
969Would you let your teenager drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs? If not, how would you try to keep him or her from doing so?
970Do you believe children should be seen and not heard? Why or why not?
971If the doctors detected that your unborn child had a severe birth defect and they could easily abort it, would you still have the baby?
972Do you think parents should provide cars for their teenagers if they are financially able? Would you allow your teenager to buy his or her own car if he or she had the funds?
973
974Wedding & Honeymoon
975Are you interested in an offbeat wedding (at a nudist beach, underwater, on a roller coaster, etc.)?
976What are the pros for eloping? What are the cons? Does it sound appealing to you?
977Who will pay for your wedding? Does that person then have control over wedding plans?
978If your sweetheart had a bachelor or bachelorette party is there anything you would find inappropriate? Would you agree not to allow anything to occur at your party that your mate feels inappropriate?
979How do you feel about your mate showing up at your wedding drunk or with a hangover? How do you feel about him or her getting drunk at the wedding?
980How many of your friends and family would you want to invite (and expect to show up) to your wedding?
981Do you belong to a culture that has certain expectations regarding weddings and receptions?
982What sort of wedding do you envision having? For what reasons would you have a completely different type of wedding or even elope?
983Would you feel awkward if your partner invited former spouses or lovers to the wedding?
984Who do you think will officiate at your wedding? Do you care?
985Do you have any preferences regarding the honeymoon? (hot, cold, not Las Vegas, a surprise, not a surprise, etc.)?
986Do you think a woman should take a man last's name? Why or why not? How about hyphenated last names? Would the man consider a hyphenated last name too?
987Do you have a vision of a perfect honeymoon (or second honeymoon)?
988
989Sex
990Are you a virgin? If so, do you plan on staying one until you are married?
991How do you feel about having sex during the woman's menstrual period?
992What is the difference between sex and romance?
993When you are in a hotel with thin walls and a squeaky bed, are you able to make love? Can you do it at your friend's house or your parent's house?
994What would you do if the man has difficulty with premature ejaculation?
995Do you have a preference between sex in the morning or at night?
996How should we decide what position to use each time we make love? (Take turns choosing? Rotate through our favorites? Try out a new one each week? etc.)
997Are there times when you just want a "quickie"? When are those?
998Do you like to talk dirty during sex? Do you like it when your spouse talks dirty to you? Are there "dirty" terms that you find offensive?
999How do you think it would affect the relationship if a woman often cannot reach climax? If it was a problem how would you try to solve it?
1000Do you think it is important that a couple have sex the first night they are married? If it has been a long and tiring day, would that make any difference?
1001Do you think that one should mainly focus on pleasing themselves during sex or pleasing their partner? Why?
1002What do I do that gives you the most sexual pleasure?
1003Do you think it is wise to go to counseling for sexual problems? If not, how would you want to try to work out the problems?
1004Do you believe that when a couple has sex for the first time, that some sort of commitment is taking place? If so, what?
1005Given your current sex drive, how often would you like to have sex with your spouse?
1006Do you have a favorite foreplay activity to turn you on?
1007Do you like to cuddle after sex?
1008Is there anything that you know of that works as an aphrodisiac for you?
1009Is it difficult for you to ask your mate for certain kinds of stimulation?
1010Does a person's sexual past matter if you really love them?
1011Do you think that you might have a difficult time having a passionate sex life because of a previous sexual experience or because of what you were taught about sex growing up?
1012Would you like to have sex outdoors? Would you do it if your partner wanted to?
1013Are there any songs that make you think of making love?
1014How would you define satisfying sex?
1015Have you ever been photographed or videotaped naked?
1016How do you feel when I tell you I'm not in the mood for sex when you request it?
1017If I felt that we needed to go to a sex therapist, would you go with me?
1018On a scale of 1-10, how strong is your sex drive? Is it increasing or is it diminishing?
1019Do you have any sexual fetishes?
1020Are there certain times of the month that your breasts are sensitive or that you don't like to be touched?
1021What kind of clothing do you find sexy? What sort of lingerie/underwear would you find most sexy on me for a special night?
1022Do you have any concerns about having sex during pregnancy?
1023What method of birth control do you prefer? Why?
1024Would you get tested for sexually transmitted diseases if I asked you?
1025Do you like to be visually stimulated during the course of making love?
1026What would you do if your partner found out he or she had an STD after you had been together?
1027What body parts turn you on the most?
1028Would you want to do a sexual act even if your spouse thought it was very unappealing?
1029Do you generally prefer sex to be very active and hot or gentle and warm?
1030Have you ever slept with a person you now know has a sexually transmitted disease (about 1 in 5 adults have some sort of STD)?
1031Have you ever been tested for a STD and what was the outcome? If you are infected, how has it affected your relationships?
1032Some people think breast and penis size matter when it comes to really good sex. What are your thoughts and/or experiences?
1033Do you feel self-stimulation is wrong or only when it is accompanied by sexual thoughts of someone besides your mate? Do you think masturbation is an acceptable form of sexual release when your mate isn't in the mood or available?
1034Have you ever been or gotten someone pregnant?
1035If you were in an accident and couldn't perform sexually, do you think your lover would be able to cope with that?
1036If a man has problems maintaining an erection on a regular basis, what would you try to do?
1037Do you have a favorite sex position? Why is it your favorite?
1038Do you have a preference of making love in the dark, by candlelight or with the lights on?
1039Who would you feel most comfortable talking with regarding sexual problems? Do you think they are qualified to give you good help and advice?
1040If you are in the mood for sex and your mate is not, would you rather your mate say "not now" or "I don't think I can climax, but I'd gladly help you get off." Would you ever want to take him or her up on it?
1041Have you ever watched a porno movie? If so, how often do you watch them? How often do you look at erotic magazines?
1042If you were ever to become addicted to pornography, how would you like me to help you break the habit?
1043Are there things that I say or do that lets you know I would like to make love?
1044There are many romantic/sex games on the market. Do you think it would be fun to try some out?
1045Have you ever had a one-night stand? How did that happen? Do you regret it?
1046Are there any scents that turn you on?
1047How would our sexual relationship change if I put on a significant amount of weight?
1048Do you think our lovemaking should increase when we go on vacation?
1049Do you think sex is overrated?
1050Do you think you could be sexually addicted? Do you find that sex often controls you instead of you controlling sex?
1051Would you want your mate to let you know if you haven't sexually satisfied them? How would you want them to tell you?
1052Do you think books are a good resource for learning new sex techniques?
1053If you plan on abstaining from sex until marriage, what sort of physical contact is acceptable? (holding hands, kissing, prolonged kissing, petting, etc.)
1054What turns you off sexually?
1055Is it possible for a couple to have sex too often? What problems could it cause?
1056How does foreplay enhance your sexual experience?
1057What sort of sexual things do you discuss with your friends?
1058How do you feel about anal sex? Do you feel it is unnatural and/or unhealthy or do you feel it is a legitimate alternative to vaginal intercourse?
1059Is there anything sexually you find wrong, offensive or distasteful?
1060Do you usually feel that when we are making love that I am just doing it to make you happy?
1061Do you consider these sexual experiences to be acceptable and healthy for your relationship or inappropriate and damaging to your relationship: Oral sex? Sex toys? Bondage? Threesomes, wifeswapping or orgies?
1062Do you think it is appropriate to use sex as a negotiating tool? Is it ever healthy for a husband/wife to withhold sex from their mate?
1063Would you like to take showers together on a regular basis, only every once in a while or do you prefer to take them alone?
1064How do you feel about women putting on makeup to make love? Do you find it sexy or silly?
1065Do you feel sexier with a tan? Do you think your mate looks sexier?
1066Do you think tan, "leathery" skin is sexy?
1067How would you feel if your mate lit up a cigarette right after sex?
1068Do you prefer your mate to make the first move or do you like to do it?
1069What's the biggest turn on for you?
1070Do you think you and your mate could or should have sex even though you are currently mad at each other?
1071Have you ever had sex with someone else without a condom?
1072Are there any forms of birth control you will not use?
1073What are the three most sensitive areas of your body?
1074Do you think it is damaging to your relationship to role-play while having sex? Is it just acting out lustful fantasies?
1075Would you be willing to get your tubes tied or have a vasectomy?
1076What do you think are the purposes of sex?
1077Do you think answering questions about sex will help make it a better experience for us?
1078What do you think is the optimum time in general for the best lovemaking?
1079Did your parents ever discuss their views on sex with you?
1080Would you ever have sex in exchange for money? For example, would you have sex for $100,000? What is the minimum amount it would take?
1081How has your sexuality changed over the years?
1082What sexual activity have you never before done but would like to try?
1083For you, do condoms significantly reduce the enjoyment of sex? Do they help prevent premature ejaculation?
1084Do you feel you know a lot about sex from experience or that you have a lot to learn?
1085Do you think you would enjoy phone sex with your spouse if you were apart?
1086How do you think sex changes as a couple grows older together?
1087What changes do you think take place after having children?
1088In sex, do you believe that if it feels good that it must be ok to do?
1089What places do you fantasize about having sex at?
1090How could our sex life become even better? Would you prefer more "quickies" or more drawn out sex? Would our sex life be more fun if we acted out fantasies, had sex in various places or tried different positions? If so, how should we plan to incorporate those changes?